For Melissa’s bump
With thanks to Ciéran, Heather, Elissia, Sasha and Abigail
Hello in there little Master-Miss, glad to make your acquaintance. I have some things to tell you that I have worked out over time. First of all let me tell you that you are loved, unconditionally, that’s how it works you see, everybody loves you even before you have a name.
There’s Mummy Melissa, and Daddy Mike. There are Penny and George the doggies who will bark off all the baddies. There are lots and lots of aunties and uncles and friends and people of all shapes and sizes that you will meet in your life who will make you smile and give you hugs and make you feel like the precious little star that you are.
Things and people come and go, happy songs will fill you up. Happy times will stay with you, and warmth will blow out from within you. This is sometimes called farts.
Another thing to mention is that nothing is forever. Forever is a lovely thing, though actually unreal. And everything you do will only be for just right then. It doesn’t matter though, you see, because your memory is there. To keep you warm even without farts, and keep you safe from sadness.
Take what you can from life, Master-Miss, it will give you all it can. Remember to say and do and dance and shout and eat and play just how you like. Be open and accepting, forgive yourself mistakes. Be honest and ready to adapt, enjoy changes within yourself. Ride it all out. Time changes everything except everything you want to keep. You can make this journey whatever you want it to be.
Remember to have fun and try to be the best of you. Make friends, because you will be a great friend and it would be sad to deprive anyone of that privilege. Love your family. They made you with love and will love you more and more the more you love.
All moments and faces are borrowed, whether for long or short times. Look on things lovingly, and like them while you can. Don’t think about endings or goodbyes, but take advantage of every minute. Love yourself and be kind, you are only human, and that is pretty special.
Now, some people may come to you and ask you big fat questions like ‘Why?’ Everyone will have different answers for these questions, and it’s up to you what you’d like to think is true. Mummy and Daddy will have their own ideas, and so will Penny and George. It is important to listen to everyone’s answers, and to decide what feels right in your own head after a big fat think. One thing Mummy and Daddy are sure to think is a reason Why, is to bring you up to love someone.
One more thing before you go, think about superheroes. Think about your special powers, and what can make you one. For example, Mummy is very brave for you to come out of her tummy. For another example, Daddy is SO caring that he will keep you from being scared in the dark by bringing you warm milk and teddies to sleep with. Both of them will feed you yummies and care for your tummy so that you grow big and strong.
So, after all this nattering, there’s one more thing to say. You can think and do what you like, dear bean, and let the rest wash away. Try to be the best of you, have fun, and don’t let fear overtake your life.